Burnout runs through legal departments constantly, yet it stays oddly invisible. We stay busy, we keep performing, and we tell ourselves it is just a demanding job. By the time we admit something deeper is wrong, we have usually been pushing through it for a long time, and so have the people around us.
This was the first session in the How to Contract series Clarity in the Real World, hosted by Laura Frederick and featuring Heather Moulder, Lawyer Coach at Course Correction Coaching, and Shaun Sethna, Chief Legal Officer and General Counsel at The L Suite. Heather spent more than 18 years practicing before moving into coaching, and Shaun has spent most of a 20-year career in-house. Both have lived through burnout themselves, which made the conversation feel less like a lecture and more like comparing notes with people who have actually been there.
They worked through what burnout really is and why our profession is so prone to it, how to catch it early in yourself and your colleagues, what actually helps you recover once you are in it, and how teams can prevent it before anyone hits the wall.
Here are our top ten takeaways from the speakers' comments during the webinar:
Treat burnout as different from ordinary stress. Most of us accept chronic stress as part of the job, so we miss the line where it turns into something worse. Burnout is emotional exhaustion, cynicism, and a shrinking sense of accomplishment, and it does not lift after a weekend or a vacation. Naming it as its own thing, separate from a busy stretch, is what lets you take it seriously enough to act.
Watch your engagement as the clearest signal. You can still be irritable and have bad days and only be stressed, as long as you still care about the result, the clients, and the work. Heather drew the dividing line at engagement. Once you catch yourself thinking it does not matter, the caring is gone and you have crossed into burnout. That shift in how much you care is worth watching more closely than your hours.
Stop blaming the hours alone. Lawyers love to measure burnout by the billable count, and long hours over a long stretch can certainly cause it. Heather was clear that the hours are usually not the real problem. Burnout builds over time as a systemic issue, when our coping patterns quit working. Looking only at the timesheet keeps us from seeing what is actually wrong.
Know that high performance can hide it. One of the traps Heather flagged is that you can perform incredibly well in the early stages, which makes it easy to tell yourself you cannot possibly be burning out. The ingrained habits carry you for a while. Do not let a good stretch of output convince you nothing is happening underneath, because it eventually catches up and turns a good lawyer into a worse one.
Catch the behavioral red flags early. The physical signs like poor sleep and getting sick more often are easy to normalize. The behavioral ones matter more. You pull back from hobbies and people, you get more impatient, you snap over small things, and you stop giving people the benefit of the doubt. When you notice yourself relating to people differently, treat it as a warning rather than a personality quirk.
Notice when your own job starts to annoy you. Shaun shared a sharp personal tell. On a good day, being asked to do something outside your role feels like a chance to help. When he was burned out, he got annoyed at being asked to do things that were squarely his job. That specific reaction, resenting the basic work you are there to do, is a signal worth paying attention to in yourself and your team.
Start recovery by naming it out loud. Shaun found that months of saying he was frustrated changed nothing. Recovery began both times only when he used the actual words and told people he was burned out. Saying it plainly, to yourself and to a few people you trust, creates the opening to make a real plan instead of writing the whole thing off as random stress.
Reframe burnout as a system problem, then stabilize. Heather starts clients by reframing, because we default to asking what is wrong with me. She treats burnout as a rational response to a misaligned system, not a personal failure. At the same time, you stabilize with better boundaries and temporary adjustments, since you cannot make good long-term decisions from inside burnout. Jumping ship too fast often lands you somewhere just as bad.
Build a support structure that includes non-lawyers. Heather stressed that our personality traits feed our stress, so we need people who will give us a reality check. Line up peers and mentors inside your organization, but also keep people outside the profession in your life who can look at your situation and tell you it is insane. That outside view catches what you cannot see from inside your own head.
Help colleagues with specifics and empathy, not labels. When you suspect someone is burning out, the way you raise it decides whether they can hear it. Lead with care, be specific about what you noticed rather than slapping on a label, and expect some resistance at first. Shaun recovered partly because colleagues told him gently how he was coming across, and do not get attached to the outcome since you may just be planting a seed for later.
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